5 mins of Matthew Mc... nope make that 47 seconds

 I stopped listening to the youtube at 47 seconds because he said something that irked me.
"Don't fall into the entitlement trap of feeling like you're a victim."

That's not right. You cannot lump those two things together.  That makes no sense. Someone writing that would see that's not the same thing.  This felt like sloppy editing, and I suddenly felt hurt by that. Some famous rich white guy is preaching some basic shit that someone not only wrote for him, but also edited it back together in a way that made less sense.  Or maybe that he did say it that way, and people didn't choose to scrutinize that because his presence made them listen harder; or they tried to sweep it under all that dramatic music. My life is not going to change just because you can swing two polar opposite sentences together that have no personal meaning to you. Some rando person making stupid advice as if they know everything just because they are "well off" in the able-ist sense of the word.

No thank you. snipping that where it needs to go. Not even pasting the youtube link in here.

The entitled are not the ones feeling like victims. The entitled are those who find themselves unquestioningly accepting of things like money, sleeping, and power trips just because they have built themselves into a world where those are daily things.  Victims are the ones who get blamed by the entitled for getting "what they deserve".  I agree to disagree.  Stop blaming the victims by calling them the entitled. They are not the same thing. Victims are entitled to grieve. Give them time to grieve and stop asking people to pull themselves up by their bootstraps.  Entitled people don't grieve. They get and they don't stop getting.

I'm also going to write more that I could potentially regret here: if we admit to being entitled, then perhaps we have a chance at being part of the "Victor/victim" thing. But the whole idea of entitlement is you have that sense of entitlement because you were the victor for most of your life.  Those who see themselves as "entitled" are not going to be a victim because that's their point of saying they are "entitled".  Imagine for instance you are the colonizer of a "new land" that has people living there. See how entitled that colonizer is? They have not seen themselves as "victims" when they claimed that land because they were "entitled" to it, right?  The victims there are not usually entitled to reclaiming their rights and their side of the story.  I think they have the right to feel victimized, particularly if any part of their people were raped, killed, or enslaved. 

Give yourself the right to grieve if you are a victim. That is the only way to recover, not this crappy dramatic music for five attention deficit hyperactive disorder capitalism loving dramatic music filled moment. You need years sometimes depending on what happened. Trauma is trauma, and no one has the right to tell anyone else that you don't get to be the victim.  This is no gift. This is you saying get well and good bye; I'm not going to listen to your excuses. Just do better next time. Pisses me off.  This is not the way to encourage people who have become actual victims.  We can't just sugar coat it with the pretense that you're only calling yourself a victim because you are entitled to it.  We can all be victims. This is part of the dilemma of war. There are no winners when lives are lost, no matter what the reason.